There’s an old adage that states, “good fences make good neighbors”. It’s been around for a long time, but said succinctly by Robert Frost in a poem about two farmers repairing and maintaining their boundaries. The poem makes the point that although it may seem more neighborly to have no fences, it is integral to … More Good fences: the importance of boundaries
We all screw up, sometimes big and sometimes small. When our screw ups hurt others (and most of the time they do), it’s time to set things right. Here’s where things can go from bad to worse. You see, it’s hard to admit when your wrong, and swallowing your pride while spitting out words can … More Why saying sorry is not good enough.
The place where I get my haircut has checkers tables in the waiting room. My son looks forward to every haircut just so he can match wits with me across the table. The trick is, I forgot the rules. I know it sounds silly, but it had been so long since I had played checkers, … More Checkers or chess
I developed a bad habit in medical school. I took up highlighting as a study tool. There's something so academic about thoughtfully marking up a page with a highlighter and silently nodding to yourself. I remember sitting in the library, secretly hoping people saw me diligently pouring over the material with thoughtful consideration for important … More When everything’s important, nothing’s important: the value of prioritizing
Facebook has turned out to be pretty neat. It serves as a scrapbook of my life, and with the "memories" feature, it lets me look back through the years and relive moments I had totally forgotten about. Today was an especially poignant memory. "The house was power washed today, and will be painted by next … More Slated for destruction: are you trying to salvage what God is trying to break apart?
A while back my wife was helping to set up an event at our church building. As we were putting on the final touches the night before, we needed to button something up in the sanctuary. She asked me if I would go along with her. I assumed there was some heavy lifting, or a … More The dark places
I have a pug. Just saying it feels like a confession. You see pugs aren’t really impressive or practical dogs. They were literally bread to be lap dogs. So when we moved a few years ago from a small city lot, to a home with a few acres, it was an adjustment for our pug … More Chasing cars: when pursuing passion doesn’t honor your design
Any time there is a tragedy or hardship, we can often here people offer their “thoughts and prayers”. It’s become such a common idiom, that we say it without a second thought, which is a bit ironic I think. I’m not really sure where this started, or why we feel compelled to say it, other … More “Thoughts & Prayers”
This question is both a sincere request and a loaded proposition at the same time. Let me be clear, I love prayer. It’s the single most mysterious, beautiful, powerful and meaningful thing I have the privilege to do. If someone lifts me up in prayer? Awesome! I’ll take it! If you are going before the … More “Can I pray for you?”
When facing impossible circumstances, it’s easy to run to God. When there are no other options, faith can suddenly appear. But what happens when in the midst of a crisis, we become distracted by minor problems. When my wife was pregnant with our third daughter, we faced the biggest challenge we had ever encountered to … More Faith can move mountains, but what about mole hills?